We have all felt “not good enough” at some point in our lives. Maybe you feel like you’ll never reach your goals, attract a good partner, or move up in your company. It’s important that you challenge these thoughts because if you dwell on them for too long, they can turn into full-blown beliefs and negatively impact your self-esteem.

Here are 5 questions you can ask yourself when you’re not feeling good enough.

What evidence do I have that I’m not good enough?

Often our negative thoughts are based on feelings rather than evidence. And when we take time to examine the facts, we realise that we are a lot more capable than we thought. Remind yourself of the things you have worked through to get where you are in life.

Am I comparing myself to others unfairly?

Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough because we are comparing ourselves to others who are in different circumstances. We may also be comparing our own weaknesses to another person’s strengths. It’s important to remember that everyone has their own unique journey.

What are my strengths and accomplishments?

Focusing on your strengths and accomplishments can help you feel more confident and capable. Take some time to list out your achievements and positive qualities.

What’s the worst that could happen if I’m not perfect?

Often, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be perfect, but this is unrealistic and unhelpful. It can be helpful to ask yourself what the worst-case scenario is if you are not perfect, and you will probably find that it is not as bad as you imagined. In fact, making mistakes is how we learn and grow.

What can I do to improve how I feel?

Think of things you can do to improve your mood and feelings of self-worth, such as;

• taking a break
• practicing self-care
• talking with a friend or therapist
• doing something that brings you joy

**Adapted from PsychCentral